## L01 Be Proactive

• Essential Question Does your dream life just happen or do you have to create it?
• Who you are is based on the decisions you made or your environment?
• It doesn't, so why do we do it?
• “No misfortune is so bad that whining about it wont make it worse” (Jeffrey R. Holland Maxims)
• Solution to your problems is to “sniff and scurry” as discussed in the book “Who Moved My Cheese”. Always work on solving the problem which causes you to grow, be a man of action instead of complaining “hem and haw” (again from Who Moved My Cheese) which causes you to become weak.
• Personal accountability
• “There are twelve good reasons for Failure. The first one is the avowed intention of doing no more than one is paid to do, and the person who makes this avowal may see the other eleven by stepping before a looking-glass.” (Law of Success by Napoleon Hill, p. 463)
• “A good stock of self-confidence and a new suit of clothes will help you land a position without 'pull,' but remember that nothing will go so far toward helping you hold it as will push, enthusiasm and determination to do more than that for which you are paid.” (Law of Success by Napoleon Hill, p. 485)
• “Here's a good joke to play on your employeer: Get to your work a little earlier and leave a little later than you are supposed to. Handle his tools as if they belonged to you. Go out of your way to say a kind word about him to your fellow-workers. When there is extra work that needs to be done, volunteer to do it. Do not show surprise when he 'gets on to you' and offers you the head of the department or a partnership in the business, for this is the best part of the 'joke.'” (The Law of Success by Napoleon Hill, p. 491)

### Habit 1 - Be Proactive

• Take initiative and be responsible to make things happen
• Use your resourcefulness and initiative
• I am responsible for my own happiness
• What matters most is how I respond to life
• Take responsibility of your behavior
• Behavior is a function of my decisions to be happy and is not affected by physical environment (if someone is unhappy doesn't mean I should me)
• I am what I am today because of the choices I made yesterday
• My hair is the way it is from a previous decision to get a haircut
• I will make wealthy decisions today so in the future I will be wealthy
• Environment doesn't determine who you are, but it is your decisions that do
• Have compassion on peoples weaknesses instead of blaming them for your problems
• What problem in my life is frustrating me?

### Michelangelo, Statue of David and the little boy

• “As the sculptor Michelangelo was chiseling a block of marble, a boy came every day and watched shyly. When the figure of David emerged and appeared from that stone, complete for all the world to admire, they asked Michelangelo, 'How did you know he was in there?'” Your Purpose and Responsibility by David B. Haight

### Positive Attitude

• “Don't let others influence my mood, should I be unhappy because you are?” (The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth by John C. Maxwell)
• “I create my life, no one else”
• “I create my happiness, no one else”

### Responsibility

• Essential Question: Who's responsibility is it to make me happy?
• Responsible means Self-Control
• Mind control is self-control (Law of Success). The ability to control your thoughts gives you the ability to create your future.
• “If you are going through life robotically, following patterns laid down by genetics, parents or society, you can react but not respond. To respond you must be conscious that you have a choice, that you can select your response. If you are responsible, you can choose when to stop. If you are not 'response-able,' you stop only when an external barrier is put up-be it the size of your stomach, the size of your credit limit or the limit of the law. With 'response-ability' we can choose our limits and maintain a sense of balance, both within ourselves and with our neighbors. Initially, responsibility is about identifying when you have enough and stopping there-for your own well-being.” (Your Money or Your Life by Joe Dominguez and Vicki Robin, p. 137-8)
• Do you spend all the money you earn? Remember freedom is the more options you have. Why not have option of saved money? Get in the habit of saving 10%-20% of your income?
• Do you eat until you cannot eat anymore? Remember freedom is the more options you have. Why not making a choice to eat until satisfied but not stuffed? Save some of the food for another meal.
• Do you push your self, equipment, relationships to the limit, until they are fully exhausted? Why? Remember freedom is the more options you have. Yes you can run a little longer but you also need energy to do other activities required in the day. Do you take, take, take in a relationship? Are you hard on the equipment you use - drive the car as fast as possible or as long as possible before getting it serviced, such as oil change, tune-up.
• Do you spend all your time at work or entertainment activities? Why are you neglecting other aspects in your life?
• Are you impulsive (act on a whim, displaying behavior characterized by little or no forethought, reflection, or consideration of the consequences)? Your free to make your own choices but not the consequences of those choices

• Essential Question How do I pursue my dream?
• How many people have a dream?
• How many are pursuing/working towards that dream?
• How many are achieving/living their dream?
• What is stopping you from pursuing your dream?
• Fear of the unknown, change or that you might fail.
• Eric Hoffer said, “People will cling to an unsatisfactory way of life, rather then change in order to get something better for fear of getting something worse.”
• Change is the key to growth
• How do you pursue your dream?
• Start! Do it now, Do it now, Do it now (repeat 50x twice a day)
• Failures best friends are procrastination and fear while successes best friends are proactive and faith. Begin now, leave your association with procrastination forever.
• “Forever-is composed of Nows” Final Harvest: Emily Dickinson's Poems
• Remember choosing to follow your dream also means saying no to other things?
• If your dream is to be healthy and fit then you have to say no eating comfort foods and sitting around watching TV
• “Can't improve and avoid change at the same time.” (The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth by John C. Maxwell)

### Focus and Concentration

• Focus and concentration are the keys to success. Focus means that you know exactly what it is that you want to accomplish and concentration requires that you dedicate yourself to doing only those things that move you toward your goal.
• If you chase two rabbits, you won't catch one. see two-rabbits-2.jpg

### Remove Clutter and Distractions From Your Life

• It's All Too Much by Peter Walsh
• Bedroom - place to sleep, ponder/relax and dress. Remove everything else - desk, TV, computer, toys, games, etc. Remove clothing that hasn't been worn in the past 12 months.

### Major Definite Purpose

• [Q] What is your major definite purpose in life? This is hard to answer but the following question, if answered, will give an insight on what it is.
• [Q] What one great thing would you dare to dream if you knew you could not fail and was guaranteed success? (see Brian Tracy Blog)
• [Q] If you were financially independent, had unlimited resources (money, friends, capital, knowledge, etc) what would you change or do in your life?
• Common responses - 1) quit my job, 2) move to another city, 3) do this hobby, 4) serve people, 5) end a toxic relationship
• [Q] Why is it important to know your major definite purpose?
• Gives you direction on what to become, remember The person you see is the person you will be. Need a mental picture/vision on what to become.
• Action Item: Make a list of everything you would do or attempt if you were absolutely guaranteed of success. Then decide upon one specific action and do it immediately.

### The Man who Stopped - John Woodruff (1915-2007)

• 1936 Olympic Gold Medalist in the 800m race
• Do you take time to reflect each day, what did I do, how can I do it better?
• Are you hanging out with a crowd that isn't going where you want to go?
• Do you feel your life is out of control? Then Stop!
• “…first shall be last; and the last shall be first.” (Matt 19:30)
• References

## L03 The Definite Plan

• “These are the steps leading from desire to fulfillment: First the burning desire, then the crystallization of that desire into a definite purpose, then sufficient appropriate action to achieve that purpose. Remember that these three steps are always necessary to insure success.
• Once you have the plan, work on it every day.
• “Easy by the inch, hard by the yard”
• “Fourth. Create a definite plan for carrying out your desire, and begin at once, whether you are ready or not, to put this plan into action.” (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill)
• “In a vague sort of way nearly everyone has a definite purpose-namely, the desire for money! But this is not a definite purpose within the meaning of the term as it is used in this lesson. Before your purpose could be considered definite, even though that purpose were the accumulation of money, you would have to reach a decision as to the precise method through which you intend to accumulate that money. It would be insufficient for you to say that you would make money by going into some sort of business. You would have to decide just what line of business. You would also have to decide just where you would locate. You would also have to decide the business policies under which you would conduct your business.” (The Law of Success by Napoleon Hill, p. 83)
• ”…many answered about as follows: 'My definite purpose in life is to be of as much service to the world as possible and earn a good living.' That answer is about as definite as a frog's conception of the size of the universe is accurate!“ (The Law of Success by Napoleon Hill, p. 83)
• “When riches take the place of poverty, the change is usually brought about through well conceived and carefully executed plans,” he wrote. “Poverty needs no plan. It needs no one to aid it, because it is bold and ruthless. Riches are shy and timid. They have to be 'attracted.'” (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill)

### Master Mind

• Allied Effort of people - a man with no legs met a blind man, between the two of us we will get along more rapidly. A winning team is the one that best coordinates the efforts of its players. (The Law of Success by Napoleon Hill, p. 83)
• “Comes, now, one of the most essential rules which you must follow. Arrange with one or all of the members of your friendly alliance to state to you, in the most positive and definite terms at their command, that THEY KNOW YOU CAN AND WILL REALIZE THE OBJECT OF YOUR DEFINITE CHIEF AIM. This affirmation or statement should be made to you at least once a day; more often if possible.” (The Law of Success by Napoleon Hill, p. 90-1)

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## L04 Abundance vs. Poverty Mindset

• Essential Question How do I create an Abundance Mindset?
• “Repetition is the mother of all learning”
• Believe, Write and Repeat out loud: “I am abundant/blessed/grateful/happy/sharing”
• You become what you think about most of the time. “For that which ye do send out shall return unto you again, and be restored” (Alma 41:15)

### Abundance Mindset

• Driving Force - to create, achieve, and have success
• Attitude of Gratitude - remember gratitude heals, so to get out of a difficult situation be grateful.
• Change and Growth
• Selfless

### Poverty Mindset

• Driving Force - survival, relationships (people are possessions), entertainment (see A Framework for Understanding Poverty by Ruby K. Payne, p. 59)
• “In poverty, discipline is about penance and forgiveness, not necessarily change.” (A Framework for Understanding Poverty by Ruby K. Payne, p. 100)
• ”…the notion that discipline should be instructive and change behavior is not part of the culture in generational poverty.“
• “When forgiveness is granted, behaviors and activities return to the way they were before the incident.”
• Selfish

### Me, Me, Me is Dull, Dull, Dull

• The Millionaire Mind by Dr. Thomas Stanley
• What happens when people just want to talk about themselves?
• What happens when a stubborn student and a controlling teacher meet?
• What happens when a hovering parent and a rebellious child meet? Did you do your homework? I don't have any!
• Talk about Me by Toby Keith

## L05 Never take no cutoffs and hurry along as fast as you can

• Essential Question How do I rush growing/becoming wealth/successful?
• Can't, it's a process over time, takes persistence!
• “I have not wrote to you half the trouble we have had but I have wrote enough to let you know that you don't know what trouble is. But thank God we have all got through and the only family that did not eat human flesh. We have left everything but I don't care for that. We have got through with our lives but Don't let this letter dishearten anybody. Never take no cutoffs and hurry along as fast as you can.” Virginia Reed letter, 16 May 1847
• “There isn't a shortcut to any place worthy to go to” (John Maxwell, 15 Laws of Growth)
• People who constantly look for shortcuts typically suffer from the lack of persistence
• “Searching for all the shortcuts to riches, trying to get without giving a fair equivalent, usually reflected in the habit of gambling, endeavoring to drive 'sharp' bargains.” (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 125) Belief in something for nothing.
• “The basis of persistence is the power of will.” (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 120)

## L06 The first step towards riches and leaving poverty

• Essential Question: What do you desire? What do you want to be/have/do?
• Series of questions to help identify what you should be spending your life energy on doing. Your Definite Desire.
• If you had a million dollars, you didn't have to work for a living, all your bills were paid for, what would you do with your time?
• If I waved a magic wand and took away your fears (poverty, criticism, disease/ill health, loss of love, old age, death, etc) what would you do with your time? What would you desire?
• What one thing would you dare to dream if you could not fail?
• What do you truly value?
• What makes your life worth living?
• What did you want to be when you grew up?
• What have you always wanted to do that you haven't yet done?
• What have you done in your life that you are really proud of?
• If you knew you were going to die within a year, how would you spend that year?
• What brings you the most fulfillment - and how is that related to money?
• References
• Your Money or Your Life by Joe Dominguez and Vicki Robin, p. 110

### Desire - The Starting Point of All Achievement

• Desire: The Starting Point of All Achievement: the First Step Toward Riches (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 25)
• ”…burning desire to win, essential to success.“ (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 26)
• “Wishing will not bring riches. But desiring riches with a state of mind that becomes an obsession, then planning definite ways and means to acquire riches, and backing those plans with persistence which does not recognize failure, will bring riches.” (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 27)
• Four reasons one leaves poverty (A Framework for Understanding Poverty by Ruby K. Payne, p. 11)
• It's too painful to stay
• a vision or goal
• a key relationship
• a special talent or skill
• To move from poverty to middle class or middle class to wealth, an individual must give up relationships for achievement (at least for some period of time). (ibid)
• Two things that help one move out of poverty are education and relationships. (ibid)
• “Booker T. Washington was born in slavery, handicapped by race and color. Because he was tolerant, had an open mind at all times, on all subjects, and was a dreamer, he left his impress for good on an entire race.” (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 31)
• “Washington argued that the surest way for blacks to gain equal social rights was to demonstrate 'industry, thrift, intelligence and property.' (see Wikipedia Booker T. Washington)

## L07 Faith The 2nd step toward riches

• Essential Question What is faith?
• ”…all thoughts which have been emotionalized, (given feeling) and mixed with faith, begin immediately to translate themselves into their physical equivalent…” (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 41)
• Remember 1st step towards riches is your Ideas/Thoughts, which are seeds planted in the heart and mind
• 1. Faith is choosing to work on the idea daily. Yes, “going through the motions” is work but it is not faith.
• You choose to work on the idea, instead of forced
• 2. Faith is looking forward to the idea becoming a reality. The excitement, emotional feeling of obtaining it. The feeling of success, achievement, you did it. The hope your seed will become a tree.
• “…For our sakes, no doubt, this is written: that he that ploweth should plow in hope; and that he that thresheth in hope should be partaker of his hope.” 1 Corinthians 9:10
• “The future is as bright as your faith” Thomas Monsen
• 3. Faith is in someone or something.
• Faith requires an object. It isn't faith in faith, love in love or trust in trust. Instead it is faith in a relationship like a spouse, or I trust other drivers will stop at the red intersection signal, or I love so and so.
• “Remember that without faith you can do nothing (D&C 8:10)
• “But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.” (Heb 11:6)
• 4. Faith is patience with your idea/seed as it grows. It takes time to grow, for an apple seed to grow into an apple tree. There isn't a shortcut to growing, like taking steroids, or stealing money to be successful. The only shortcut is work, time and attention you give to growing your idea.

### Faith and Persistence

• Essential Question What is Faith? What is Persistence? Faith in who or what?
• In a relationship, what does it me to be faithful? (Faithful in thefreedictionary.com). Have faith in a spouse.
• “Faith does not exist by itself. Faith requires an object. It must be faith in something or someone. In that respect, faith is like love. Love cannot exist without an object…. Love is meaningless unless it is directed toward something or someone. We love our parents. We love our brothers and sisters. We love the Lord. Faith is the same. If we think we have faith, we should ask, faith in whom or faith in what? For some, faith is nothing more than faith in themselves. That is only self-confidence or self-centeredness. Others have faith in faith, which is something like relying on the power of positive thinking or betting on the proposition that we can get what we want by manipulating the powers within us.” (Dallin H. Oaks)
• Trust is also like Faith, it requires an object. You wouldn't say I trust in trust, but would say I trust in God, see USA Coin - One Cent, Penny - the Trust is in God. Penny United States Coin

#### Blind Bartimæus

• Who does Bartimæus have faith in? “Jesus, thou Son of David”
• Did Bartimæus know what he wanted, had a firmness of mind? Yes, “have mercy on me” and “Lord, that I might receive my sight.”
• Was Bartimæus persistent? Yes, “And many charged him that he should hold his peace: but he cried the more a great deal”
• How did Bartimæus receive his sight? Jesus said, ”…thy faith hath made thee whole…“

#### What is Faith?

• 1. Belief - believing in God you can obtain your desire, having positive thoughts you can instead of self-defeating talk (these are not your thoughts but the adversary)
• 2. Positive Attitude - applying positive feelings/emotions to your desire, think you can
• 3. Work - constantly work/activity on creating your desire, persistence like Aesop's fable - tortoise and hare
• 4. Firmness of Mind/Courage - already decided your plan of action, not tempted or distracted
• 4a. Courage - to face your fear, go into the unknown just believing
• “Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the Lord thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest.” Joshua 1:9
• 5. “Faith is not something you get, faith is something you already have” (Napoleon Hill 46:10/2:13:00) in your mind. You have full control over but one thing, your mind. Keep it off the things you don't want and on the things you do want. Always be thankful, possession starts first with the mind so be thankful you received it in your before you actually possess it physically.
• 6. Your faith will grow not by chance, but by choice (Neil L. Andersen)
• “Faith in the Lord Jesus Christ is not something ethereal, floating loosely in the air. Faith does not fall upon us by chance or stay with us by birthright.” (ibid)
• “As I tried to live righteously, I felt the Savior's love and guidance. My faith grew, allowing me to overcome many challenges.” (Aroldo Cavalcante)
• What is the choice? To remain hopeful while you continue to move forward/persistence through your challenges/adversities/problems, no matter how discouraging they can be.
• “Now faith is the substance/assurance/basis/foundation of things hoped for, the evidence/proof of things not seen.” (Heb 11:1)
• Essential Question How do I increase my faith?
• The scriptures teach us that faith comes by hearing the word of God, “So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God” (Rom 10:17)
• How do I increase my faith?
If you think you are beaten, you are,
If you think you dare not, you don't
If you like to win, but you think you can't,
It is almost certain you won't.

If you think you'll lose, you're lost
For out of the world we find,
Success begins with a fellow's will-
It's all in the state of mind.

If you think you are outclassed, you are,
You've got to think high to rise,
You've got to be sure of yourself before
You can ever win a prize

Life's battles don't always go
To the stronger or faster man,
But soon or late the man who wins
Is the man who thinks he can!

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 46

### Persistence key ingredient to produce Faith

• How to Develop Persistence
• 1. A definite purpose backed by burning desire for its fulfillment
• 2. A definite plan, expressed in continuous action
• 3. A mind closed tightly against all negative and discouraging influences, including negative suggestions of relatives, friends and acquaintances
• 4. A friendly alliance with one or more persons who will encourage one to follow through with both plan and purpose
• (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 127)

### What is Persistence

• Aesop Fable - Tortoise and the Hare

### A Fifty-Cent Lesson in Persistence

Shortly after Mr. Darby received his degree from the 'University of Hard Knocks,' and had decided to profit by his experience in the gold mining business, he had the good fortune to be present on an occasion that proved to him that 'No' does not necessarily mean no.

One afternoon he was helping his uncle grind wheat in an old fashioned mill. The uncle operated a large farm on which a number of colored sharecrop farmers lived. Quietly, the door was opened, and a small colored child, the daughter of a tenant, walked in and took her place near the door.

The uncle looked up, saw the child, and barked at her roughly, 'what do you want?'

Meekly, the child replied, 'My mammy say send her fifty cents.'

'I'll not do it,' the uncle retorted, 'Now you run on home.'

'Yas sah,' the child replied. But she did not move.

The uncle went ahead with his work, so busily engaged that he did not pay enough attention to the child to observe that she did not leave. When he looked up and saw her still standing there, he yelled at her, 'I told you to go on home! Now go, or I'll take a switch to you.'

The little girl said 'yas sah,' but she did not budge an inch.

The uncle dropped a sack of grain he was about to pour into the mill hopper, picked up a barrel stave, and started toward the child with an expression on his face that indicated trouble.

Darby held his breath. He was certain he was about to witness a murder. He knew his uncle had a fierce temper. He knew that colored children were not supposed to defy white people in that part of the country.

When the uncle reached the spot where the child was standing, she quickly stepped forward one step, looked up into his eyes, and screamed at the top of her shrill voice, 'My mammy's gotta have that fifty cents!'

The uncle stopped, looked at her for a minute, then slowly laid the barrel stave on the floor, put his hand in his pocket, took out half a dollar, and gave it to her.

The child took the money and slowly backed toward the door, never taking her eyes off the man whom she had just conquered. After she had gone, the uncle sat down on a box and looked out the window into space for more than ten minutes. He was pondering, with awe, over the whipping he had just taken.

Mr. Darby, too, was doing some thinking. That was the first time in all his experience that he had seen a colored child deliberately master an adult white person. **How did she do it?** What happened to his uncle that caused him to lose his fierceness and become as docile as a lamb? What strange power did this child use that made her master over her superior? These and other similar questions flashed into Darby's mind, but he did not find the answer until years later, when he told me the story.

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 17-19

• Persistence is not rudeness or overbearing
• Courage is an ingredient of faith, for the little girl to step forward when being assaulted.

## L08 You Become What You Think

• Essential Question: What does it mean, I become what I think about?
• Your thoughts determine your actions. Those actions you take will produce/create the reality, come into existence.
• Your ideas/thoughts are seeds, if you work on them, plant them, they grow into their physical equivalent.
• You reap what you sow. In other words, you harvest what you plant.
• “Fear not to do good, my sons, for whatsoever ye sow, that shall ye also reap; therefore, if ye sow good ye shall also reap good for your reward.” Doctrine and Covenants 6:33
• “Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.” Galatians 6:7
• Like attracts like
• “There are millions of people who believe themselves 'doomed' to poverty and failure, because of some strange force over which they believe they have no control. They are the creators of their own 'misfortunes' because of this negative belief, which is picked up by the subconscious mind, and translated into its physical equivalent.” (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 41)
• You get what you give
• Feel what you think (The Law of Success by Napoleon Hill)
• Law of Attraction
• “For as he thinketh in his heart so is he…” (Proverbs 23:7)
• “Riches begin in the form of thought!” (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 54)
• 'we become what we think about' (Earl Nightingale - The Strangest Secret)
• Decisions Determine Destiny by Thomas S. Monson
• “you have absolute control over but one thing, and that is your thoughts…. If you fail to control your own mind, you may be sure you will control nothing else.” (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 196)
• “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” (Mahatma Gandhi)
• Mind control is the result of self-discipline and habit. You either control your mind or it controls you…. The most practical of all methods for controlling the mind is the habit of keeping it busy with a definite purpose, backed by a definite plan. Study the record of any man who achieves noteworthy success, and you will observe that he has control over his own mind, moreover, that he exercises that control and directs it toward the attainment of definite objectives. Without this control, success is not possible.” (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 197)
• “President David O. McKay, ninth President of the Church, advised 'I implore you to think clean thoughts.' He then made this significant declaration of truth: 'Every action is preceded by a thought. If we want to control our actions, we must control our thinking.' Brethren, fill your minds with good thoughts, and your actions will be proper.” (Preparation Brings Blessings by Thomas S. Monson)

### Each thing creates its kind

You never can tell what a thought will do
In bringing you hate or love-
**For thoughts are things**, and their airy wings
Are swifter than carrier doves.
They follow the law of the universe-
**Each thing creates its kind**,
And they speed O'er the track to bring you back
Whatever went out from your mind.
(Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 158)

The greatest achievement was at first and for a time a dream.
The oak sleeps in the acorn,
the bird waits in the egg,
and in the highest vision of the soul
a waking angel stirs.
Dreams are the seedlings of realities.
(James Allen and Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p.30)

• [Q] When does a chicken egg become a dog, or a weed turn into a rose, or a mind full of hate radiate love?
• [A] It never does! A chicken egg always becomes a chicken, it begets it's likeness. Similarly, thoughts of love produce its likeness - acts of kindness, healthy relationships (friends, family, spouse).
• [Q] Why don't people believe “each thing creates its kind”?
• [A] Weakness-lack of will-power/self control, fear of unknown/change, stubbornness, poor self-esteem-trying to be something you are not-create a mask (wolf in sheep's clothing)
• I've been abusing/criticizing my wife and children for the smallest mistake so they will better.
• This is the way I've always done it and to change would be the same as admitting I was wrong. Also this would give me feelings of remorse for my actions.
• I'm searching far and wide for an example to prove you wrong, and once I find it, then I will justify my negative behaviors and say they produce positive results.
• I want this job of being security guard at an apartment complex so I can steal things.

## L09 Look Up - Key to Calm Anger

• Norman Rockwell - Lift Up Thine Eyes
• Essential Question: How do you overcome fear/anger/discouragement?
• Why do some football athletes look up when they just scored a touchdown?
• Someone insults you - do you react or respond?
• How do you maintain your self-control? Common practice by attorney's to get someone to talk is make them angry, then witness will react with emotions that could be damaging. Better is to respond and maintain self-control.
• Anger comes from Fear
• “How do you handle an angry student? Anger is almost always based upon fear. If you can find out the fear, you can address in part the anger. Rage, on the other hand, is almost always based on shame. Shame is much harder to identify because generally it isn't connected to a specific person.” (Working with Students - Discipline Strategies for the Classroom by Ruby K. Payne, p. 119). Ideal approach to diffuse anger:
• Step 1 - Isolate student
• Step 2 - Diffuse the anger by staying in the adult voice. Validate the student's feelings.
• Step 3 - Calm the student. One of the quickest ways is to have the student look at the ceiling. When eyes are up, the brain cannot access feelings. So have the student look up for a while.
• ”…behold, I say unto you, Lift up your eyes,…“ (John 4:35)
• “My voice shalt thou hear in the morning, O Lord; in the morning will I direct my prayer unto thee, and will look up. (Psalms 5:1-3)
• “O all ye that are pure in heart, lift up your heads and receive the pleasing word of God, and feast upon his love; for ye may, if your minds are firm, forever” (Jacob 3:2)
• It Is Better to Look Up by Carl B. Cook
• Step 4 - Try to find the cause of the anger. Was there a specific incident? Is it a person? Is it a prior incident before school? Is it a home issue? Is there a biochemical issue?
• Step 5 - Redirect the feelings from the personal to the issue.
• Step 6 - Refer the student to a counselor, nurse, administrator, etc.
• How do you overcome fear?
• “faith is the only known antidote for failure!” (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 42)
• “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” (2 Tim 1:7)
• vices and sin bring shame which leads to rage, so have the discipline to say no to them, forsake your weaknesses and keep your focus on your plan!

## L10 Small Things Lead to Big Things

• Also known as the snowball effect
• Essential Question What small thing can you do today which will have a big impact on your future?
• Positive: I can practice the habit of persistence and do my classwork for the day, this would lead to a high school diploma in the future
• Positive: I can practice the habit of kindness to everyone today, this would lead to friendships in the future
• Positive: I can practice the habit of saving money today, this would lead to wealth in the future
• Negative: I could bring a gun to school and windup in prison.
• [Q] Why do small and simple things bring great things to pass?
• [A] life is like a seed, we need to grow into what we want to be, cannot buy it (money cannot buy good health because good health is the fruit of wise eating, life style, and exercise).
• [Q] why is the spiritual pattern of small and simple things bringing great things to pass so central to living the gospel of Jesus Christ with faith and diligence? Small Simple Things Essential to Growth
• “by small and simple things are great things brought to pass” (Alma 37:6)
• Very big problems can be solved by small and simple ideas
• Switch by Chip Heath and Dan Heath
• Don't solve problems - copy success.

Jerry Sternin arrived in Vietnam in 1990 to fight malnutrition. The conventional wisdom was that malnutrition was the result of an intertwined set of problems: Sanitation was poor. Poverty was nearly universal. Clean water was not readily available. The rural people tended to be ignorant about nutrition. Ignoring the experts, Sternin traveled to a local village and called together all the village's mothers. He asked for their assistance in finding ways to nourish their kids better, and they agreed to help. As the first step, they went out in teams to weigh and measure every child in the village. Then, they pored over the results together with Sternin.

He asked them, “Did you find any very, very poor kids who are bigger and healthier than the typical child?” The women, scanning the data, nodded and said, “Có, có, có.” (Yes, yes, yes.)

He said, “You mean it's possible today in this village for a very poor family to have a well-nourished child?”

“Có, có, có.”

“Then let's go see what they're doing.”

Sternin's strategy was to search the community for bright spots. If some kids were healthy despite their disadvantages, then that meant something important: Malnourishment was not inevitable. The mere existence of healthy kids provided hope for a practical, short-term solution. Sternin knew he couldn't fix the thorny root causes. But if a handful of kids were staying healthy against the odds, why couldn't every kid be healthy?

To understand what the bright spots were doing differently, the mothers first had to understand the typical eating behaviors in the community. So they talked to dozens of people — other mothers, fathers, older brothers and sisters, grandparents — and discovered that the norms were pretty clear: Kids ate twice a day along with the rest of their families, and they ate food that was deemed appropriate for children — soft, pure foods like the highest-quality rice.

Armed with that understanding, the mothers then observed the homes of the bright-spot kids, and, alert for any deviations, they noticed some unexpected habits. For one thing, bright-spot moms were feeding their kids four meals a day (using the same amount of food as other moms but spreading it across four servings rather than two). The larger twice-a-day meals eaten by most families turned out to be a mistake for children, because their malnourished stomachs couldn't process that much food at one time.

The style of eating was also different. Most parents believed that their kids understood their own needs and would feed themselves appropriately from a communal bowl. But the healthy kids were fed more actively — by hand if necessary. The children were even encouraged to eat when they were sick, which was not the norm.

Perhaps most interesting, the healthy kids were eating different kinds of food. The bright-spot mothers were collecting tiny shrimp and crabs from the rice paddies and mixing them in with their kids' rice. (Shrimp and crabs were eaten by adults but they weren't considered appropriate food for kids.) The mothers also tossed in sweet-potato greens, which were considered a low-class food. These dietary improvisations, however strange or “low class,” were doing something precious: adding sorely needed protein and vitamins to the children's diet.

### Produce Change

• How can I produce change in myself and others?
• 1. Direct the Rider (mind) - what looks like resistance is often lack of clarity. So provide crystal-clear direction.
• 2. Motivate the Elephant (emotion) - what looks like laziness is often exhaustion. Engage people's emotional side.
• 3. Shape the Path (physical) - what looks like a people problem is often a situation problem. (Think of the effect of shrinking movie popcorm buckets)

## L11 Imagination vs The Fear of Criticism

• Essential Question How do you obtain your desire?
• Use your resourcefulness and initiative
• “The impulse, the desire, is given shape, form, and action through the aid of the imaginative faculty of the mind.” (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 72)
• [Q] What are the benefits of imagination?
• “It has been said that man can create anything which he can imagine.” (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 72)
• “Man's only limitation, within reason, lies in his development and use of his imagination.” (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 72)

### Why don't you use your imagination?

• 1. The fear of criticism ”…is almost as universal as the fear of poverty, and its effects are just as fatal to personal achievement, mainly because this fear destroys initiative, and discourages the use of imagination.” (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 183)
• 2. Fear of rejection
• What is the number one problem facing of our community today. Untied shoe laces. Which is way I have invented a lace-less alternative foot covering. “Spray on shoes.” Whola! So nifty. How you get them off nerd? What a freak. He wants to be smart but that's lame.
• 3. Fear of the unknown, Fear your life will be worse off
• 4. Fear of failure
• 5. fear, fear, fear

### What happens if you neglect your imagination?

• “Imagination is the key to motivation” (Earl Nightingale, The Essence of Success who said the quote came from Rene Descartes)
• “There is one weakness in people for which there is no remedy. It is the universal weakness of Lack of ambition! (Think and Grow Rich, p. 65). Really, there is a remedy, that is imagination, but what is the remedy for the lack of imagination?

## L12 W.I.N. What's Important Now

• Essential Questions
• [Q] How do I get my lifelong dream/desire?
• [A] W.I.N. everyday
• [Q] I want to graduate from high school, so what's important now (W.I.N.)?
• Do I pay attention in class, sit in the front row, take notes, or am I glued to my mobile phone?
• [Q] I want to be healthy and fit, so what's important now (W.I.N.)?
• Do I overeat, skip workouts, watch TV instead of sleep, etc.
• [Q] I want to fulfill my dream of being a fill in the blank, so what's important now?
• [Q] I want a rewarding relationship with a fill in the blank, so what's important now?

### Larry Gelwix - W.I.N. - What's Important Now

• encourages his players to make decisions NOW that support what they want in the future, or “tomorrow” (see Wikipedia Larry Gelwix)
• Focus on the here and now (play right now), not the mistake just made or next weeks game
• Losing vs Beaten - beaten they are better than you but losing means you lost focus

### Lou Holtz - W.I.N.

• Legends of South Bend Holtz: What's Important Now For the Irish repeat 25x a day
• Lou Holtz Definition of Success
• Set high goals and do your very best each day to reach it. Commit to Excellence.
• Notre Dame Self Esteem/Image/Confidence Rules
• Do what is right
• Golden Rule - Do unto others as you would have them do unto you

* Rocky - WIN

## L13 Dress for Success

* Essential Questions: Does my dress/clothing affect my behavior? Does your behavior affect your income?

• Would you change your dress if that was the only thing standing between you and money?
• What is your choice of dress costing you?
• Does my dress/clothing affect my behavior? If so, in what way?
• “The clothes you wear influence you; therefore, they constitute a part of your environment. Soiled or shabby clothes depress you and lower your self-confidence, while clean clothes, of an appropriate style, have just the opposite effect.” (The Law of Success by Napoleon Hill, p. 444)
• “Are you careless of your personal appearances? If so, when and why?” (Susceptibility to Negative Influences - Self-analysis Test Questions in Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 194)
• Awareness of your current dress and what is your plan to improve?
• “If I had the courage to see myself as I really am, I would find out what is wrong with me, and correct it, then I might have a chance to profit by my mistakes and learn something from the experience of others, for I know that there is something wrong with me, or I would now be where I would have been if I had spent more time analyzing my weaknesses, and less time building alibis to cover them.” (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 199)
• “Always dress for the job you want in the future. Always dress so your boss would be proud to show you to one of his customers. Always dress ahead of where you are in life. People promote people who look like them.” (The New Psychology of Achievement by Brian Tracy)
• Clothing doesn't retain it's value, so buy good clothing on sale or at a discount store. (see Millionaire Mind by Thomas Stanley)
• “I have studied the psychology of clothes for so long, and I have watched its effect on people in so many different walks of life, that I am fully convinced there is a close connection between clothes and success.” (Law of Success by Napoleon Hill, p. 60)
• “The way you dress sends messages about yourself to others and often influences the way you and others act. Dress in such a way as to bring out the best in yourself and those around you. Avoid extremes in clothing and appearance, including tattoos and piercings.” (Preparation Brings Blessings by Thomas S. Monsen)

### Edwin C. Barnes

• “I have seen a few well dressed people who made no outstanding records as salesmen, but I have yet to see the first poorly dressed man who became a star producer in the field of selling.” (Law of Success by Napoleon Hill, p. 60)
• “He then gave me a lesson on the psychology of clothes which is well worth remembering. 'I do not wear thirty-one suits of clothes,' said he, 'entirely for the impression they make on other people; I do it mostly for the impression they have on me.' Barnes then told me of the day when he presented himself at the Edison plant, for a position. He said he had to walk around the plant a dozen times before he worked up enough courage to announce himself, because he knew that he looked more like a tramp than he did a desirable employee. Barnes is said to be the most able salesman ever connected with the great inventor of West Orange. His entire fortune was made through his ability as a salesman, but he has often said that he never could have accomplished the results which have made him both wealthy and famous had it not been for his understanding of the psychology of clothes.” (Law of Success by Napoleon Hill, p. 59)

### CCSD Dress Code

• CLARK COUNTY SCHOOL DISTRICT REGULATION Dress and Appearance
• Require the wearing of shoes with soles. House slippers and shoes with wheels are not permitted.
• All clothing must be sufficient to conceal any and all undergarments. No skin will show between bottom of shirt/blouse and top of pants or skirts at any time. All sleeveless shirts must have straps at least three inches wide. Prohibited tops include, but are not limited to, crop tops, tank tops, strapless, low-cut clothing, clothing with slits, or tops and outfits that provide minimum coverage.
• Require that all shorts, skorts, skirts, and jumpers/dresses must be at fingertip length.
• All jeans, pants, and trousers must be secured at waist level. Sagging is strictly prohibited. Jeans, pants, and trousers are not to have rips or tears that expose undergarments and/or are located mid-thigh or higher.
• Headgear (hats, hoods, caps, bandanas, hair grooming aids, etc.) is not permitted on campus except for designated school approved uniforms, special events, authorized athletic practices, documented medical conditions, bona fide religious reasons, or CCSD/school sanctioned activities.
• Slogans or advertising on clothing, jewelry, buttons, and/or accessories which by their controversial, discriminatory, profane, and/or obscene nature disrupt the educational setting are prohibited.
• Any clothing, jewelry, buttons, and/or accessories that promote illegal or violent conduct, or affiliation with groups that promote illegal or violent conduct such as, but not limited to, the unlawful use of weapons, drugs, alcohol, tobacco, or drug paraphernalia, or clothing that contains threats are prohibited.
• Spiked or studded clothing, jewelry, and/or accessories are prohibited.

## L14 Honesty is the best policy

• Essential Question Your supervisor tells you to do something illegal and if you don't he will get you fired, what should you do?
• What takes more power to do, tell a lie or get someone fired? If someone has the power to fire you, then it is so easy for them to lie to you. Don't trust in lie!
• What do you think your supervisor will do once you committed the crime? All criminals cover their tracks, so he will still work on getting your fired and you will take the blame.
• Honesty leads to respect and trust from yourself and others

### Irena Sendler

• The Courageous Heart of Irena Sendler
• tortured by Gestapo
• Janusz Korczak and his 192 Jewish orphan children, author of King Matt the First
• Under the green flag of King Matt - because green is the symbol of all that grows http://www.si.com/vault/2015/07/10/106211238/
• “You do not leave a sick child in the night and you do not leave children at a time like this”

### 3 Things Excellent Employees Do by Dave Ramsey

• Dave Ramsey's Keys to Successful Employee
• 1. show up to work 5-10 min early
• 2. be honest - don't steal
• 3. smile
• “The oft-repeated adage is ever true: 'Honesty is the best policy.'… When a difficult decision must be made, he never asks himself, 'What will others think?' but rather, 'What will I think of myself?' For some, there will come the temptation to dishonor a personal standard of honesty. In a business law class at the university I attended, I remember that one particular classmate never prepared for the class discussions. I thought to myself, 'How is he going to pass the final examination?' I discovered the answer when he came to the classroom for the final exam on a winter's day wearing on his bare feet only a pair of sandals. I was surprised and watched him as the class began. All of our books had been placed upon the floor, as per the instruction. He slipped the sandals from his feet; and then, with toes that he had trained and had prepared with glycerin, he skillfully turned the pages of one of the books which he had placed on the floor, thereby viewing the answers to the examination questions. He received one of the highest grades in that course on business law. But the day of reckoning came. Later as he prepared to take his comprehensive exam, for the first time the dean of his particular discipline said, 'This year I will depart from tradition and will conduct an oral, rather than a written, test.' Our favorite trained-toe expert found that he had his foot in his mouth on that occasion and failed the exam.” (Preparation Brings Blessings by Thomas S. Monson)

## L15 Decision - Be Intentional

• Essential Question What are you procrastinating and why?
• I'm waiting for the right relationship! Positive relationships don't just happen, you have to create it, take care of it as it grows.
• I'm afraid of making a mistake, so I don't make a decision?
• Wrong, you are making a decision, the decision to do nothing. Remember opportunity is disguised as work and challenges, so choose them and then the opportunity will reveal its self.
• Conflicting Goals leads to indecision. The rider isn't sure where to go. I want to be healthy but I also want the comfort eating these cookies after an exhausting day.
• Solution: have a mentor/coach/spouse/friend help you write out a plan, script the path you need to follow to get your major definite purpose. Make the decision at the grocery store not to buy cookies so then won't have them at home to tempt you. Have healthy alternatives available when you have cravings or better yet, form a new positive habit like walking, reading, relationships, hobbies, etc. instead of food.
• Let’s be honest; it’s rather easy to be busy. We all can think up a list of tasks that will overwhelm our schedules. Some might even think that their self-worth depends on the length of their to-do list. They flood the open spaces in their time with lists of meetings and minutia—even during times of stress and fatigue. Because they unnecessarily complicate their lives, they often feel increased frustration, diminished joy, and too little sense of meaning in their lives.” (Of Things That Matter Most by Dieter Uchtdorf)
• Essential Question How do you overcome procrastination?
• By making a decision and working on that decision daily.
• “Procrastination, the opposite of decision, is a common enemy which practically every man must conquer.” (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 111)
• Essential Question What is a decision?
• A real decision is a combination of firmness of mind and take immediate action and persistence over time with that decision. For example, I made a decision to lose 10 lbs, which if it's a real decision implies I will immediately begin to eat healthy, exercise regularly. It also means I've decide to pass on all future temptations to sleep in or over eat.
• Decision - The Mastery of Procrastination: The 7th Step Toward Riches
• “You have a brain and mind of your own. Use it, and reach your own decisions. If you need facts or information from other people, to enable you to reach decisions, as you probably will in many instances; acquire these facts or secure the information you need quietly, without disclosing your purpose.” (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 112)
• Difference between deciding and doing a thing
• 5 frogs are sitting on a log, 4 decide to leave, how many are left? 5, just because they make a decision to leave, doesn't mean they actually did it. (The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth by John Maxwell)
• Fable applies to New Year's resolution to lose weight, just because I decide to do it, doesn't mean I did it. So you need both to be successful, decide and do.
• Firmness of mind
• “But behold, I, Jacob, would speak unto you that are pure in heart. Look unto God with firmness of mind, and pray unto him with exceeding faith, and he will console you in your afflictions, and he will plead your cause, and send down justice upon those who seek your destruction. O all ye that are pure in heart, lift up your heads and receive the pleasing word of God, and feast upon his love; for ye may, if your minds are firm, forever.” (Jacob 3:1-2)
• “The righteous cry, and the Lord heareth, and delivereth them out of all their troubles.” (Psalms 34:17)
• “Many are the aafflictions of the righteous: but the Lord delivereth him out of them all.” (Psalms 34:19)
• “And I have been supported under trials and troubles of every kind, yea, and in all manner of afflictions; yea, God has delivered me from prison, and from bonds, and from death; yea, and I do put my trust in him, and he will still deliver me.” (Alma 36:27)
• “But if ye will turn to the Lord with full purpose of heart, and put your trust in him, and serve him with all diligence of mind, if ye do this, he will, according to his own will and pleasure, deliver you out of bondage.” (Mosiah 7:33)
• “Be wise in the days of your probation; strip yourselves of all uncleanness; ask not, that ye may consume it on your lusts, but ask with a firmness unshaken, that ye will yield to no temptation, but that ye will serve the true and living God.” (Mormon 9:28)
• “Courage implies firmness of mind” (Merriam-Webster Dictionary - Courage)
• 16 Shadrach, Meshach, and Abed-nego, answered and said to the king, O Nebuchadnezzar, we are not careful to answer thee in this matter.
• 17 If it be so, our God whom we serve is able to deliver us from the burning fiery furnace, and he will deliver us out of thine hand, O king.
• 18 But if not, be it known unto thee, O king, that we will not serve thy gods, nor worship the golden image which thou hast set up.

## L16 Great Things from Lowly Beginnings

• [Q] What does “great things from lowly beginnings” mean?

### Snowman - How The Ordinary Became The Extraordinary

• [Q] How do you become your desire? Does it just happen?
• [Q] How was Snowman created?
• [Q] What was Snowman's life before Harry de Leyer?

"Harry de Leyer was late to the auction on that snowy day in 1956, and all of the good horses had already been sold. The few that remained were old and spent and had been bought by a company that would turn them into dog food.

Harry, the riding master at a girl's school in Pennsylvania, was about to leave when one of the horses that had been marked for slaughter caught his eye. The horse was a dirty, gray gelding with ugly-looking sores on its legs. The marks left by a heavy work harness gave evidence to the hard life it had led. But something about him captured Harry's attention and so he offered \$80 for it. It was snowing when Harry's children saw the horse for the first time and, because of the coat of snow on the horse's back, the children named it 'Snowman.' Harry took good care of the horse. He was a gentle and reliable animal-a horse the girls like to ride because he was steady and didn't startle like some of the others. In fact, Snowman made such rapid improvement that a neighbor purchased him for twice what Harry had originally paid. But Snowman kept disappearing from the neighbor's pasture-sometimes ending up in adjoining potato fields, other times back at Harry's place. How Snowman got out of the pasture was something of a mystery. It appeared that the horse must have jumped over the fences between the properties, but that seemed impossible-Harry had never seen Snowman jump over anything much higher than a fallen log. But eventually the neighbor's patience came to an end, and he insisted Harry buy the horse back. For years, Harry's great dream had been to produce a champion jumping horse. He had had moderate success in the past, but in order to compete at the highest levels, he knew he would have to buy a pedigreed horse that had been specifically bred to jump. And that kind of pedigree would cost far more than what he could afford. Snowman was already getting old-he was eight when Harry had purchased him-and he had been badly treated. But, apparently, Snowman wanted to jump and so Harry decided to see what the horse could do. What Harry saw made him think that maybe his horse had a chance to compete. In 1958, Harry entered Snowman in his first jumping competition. Snowman stood among the beautifully bred, champion horses, looking very much out of place. Other horse breeders called Snowman a 'flea-bitten gray.' But a wonderful, unbelievable thing happened that day. Snowman won! Harry continued to enter Snowman in other competitions, and Snowman continued to win. Audiences cheered madly every time Snowman made a jump. He became a symbol of how extraordinary an ordinary horse could be. He appeared on television. Stories and books were written about him. As Snowman continued to win, one buyer offered$100,000 for the old plow horse, but Harry would not sell. In 1958 and 1959, Snowman was named 'Horse of the Year.' Eventually, the gray gelding-who had once been marked for slaughter-was inducted into the show jumping hall of fame.

For millions of people, Snowman was more than a horse. He was a symbol of the hidden, untapped potential that lies within each of us." (Press On by Joseph B. Wirthlin, p. 43-45)

## L17 Growth Through Struggle

• Essential Question What does opportunity look like?
• Looks like trials, work, difficulty and struggle? The opportunity isn't that you stay in this environment but that you use resourcefulness, initiative, creativity and effort to overcome and prevail over the challenge.
• Essential Question Are you thankful for your trials/struggles/afflictions in life?
• They are opportunities in disguise! So, yes thankful for them as we know gratitude heals!
• They are put there to help you grow and gain the advantage in life. So, yes thankful for our trials as we know gratitude heals!
• 2 Nephi 2:2 “…thou knowest the greatness of God; and he shall concencrate thine afflictions for thy gain.”
• Will you be thankful when told no? Will you trust in God, he is helping you to grow?
• Key to success is to be thankful when facing the pain of growing, or in other words, thankful for the opportunities to grow from your afflictions. Remember gratitude heals!
• “God having provided some better things for them through their sufferings, for without sufferings they could not be made perfect.” (Heb 11:40)
• What does opportunity look like? Its mostly disguised as misfortune/afflictions.
• “when the opportunity came, it appeared in a different form, and from a different direction than Barnes had expected. That is one of the tricks of opportunity. It has a sly habit of slipping in by the back door, and often it comes disguised in the form of misfortune, or temporary defeat. Perhaps this is why so many fail to recognize opportunity.” (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 15)
• “…something infinitely more important than material compensation - the knowledge that 'every failure brings with it the seed of an equivalent advantage.'” (Think and Grow Rich, p. 122)

### Uchtdorf and the Shiny New Red Bike

"Allow me to share with you an experience from my own boyhood. When I was 11 years old, my family had to leave East Germany and begin a new life in West Germany overnight. Until my father could get back into his original profession as a government employee, my parents operated a small laundry business in our little town. I became the laundry delivery boy. To be able to do that effectively, I needed a bicycle to pull the heavy laundry cart. I had always dreamed of owning a nice, sleek, shiny, sporty red bicycle. But there had never been enough money to fulfill this dream. What I got instead was a heavy, ugly, black, sturdy workhorse of a bicycle. I delivered laundry on that bike before and after school for quite a few years. Most of the time, I was not overly excited about the bike, the cart, or my job. Sometimes the cart seemed so heavy and the work so tiring that I thought my lungs would burst, and I often had to stop to catch my breath. Nevertheless, I did my part because I knew we desperately needed the income as a family, and it was my way to contribute.

If I had only known back then what I learned many years later if I had only been able to see the end from the beginning I would have had a better appreciation of these experiences, and it would have made my job so much easier.

Many years later, when I was about to be drafted into the military, I decided to volunteer instead and join the Air Force to become a pilot. I loved flying and thought being a pilot would be my thing.

To be accepted for the program I had to pass a number of tests, including a strict physical exam. The doctors were slightly concerned by the results and did some additional medical tests. Then they announced, You have scars on your lung which are an indication of a lung disease in your early teenage years, but obviously you are fine now. The doctors wondered what kind of treatment I had gone through to heal the disease. Until the day of that examination I had never known that I had any kind of lung disease. Then it became clear to me that my regular exercise in fresh air as a laundry boy had been a key factor in my healing from this illness. Without the extra effort of pedaling that heavy bicycle day in and day out, pulling the laundry cart up and down the streets of our town, I might never have become a jet fighter pilot and later a 747 airline captain."

• Psalms 34:19 “Many are the afflictions of the righteous; but the Lord delivereth him out of them all.”
• 2 Tim 3:11 “Persecutions, afflictions, which came unto me at Antioch, at Iconium, at Lystra; what persecutions I endured; but out of them all the Lord delivered me.”

## L18 Singing and Music

• Essential Question
• How do I make a something grow faster?
• Talk to it, Sing to it, give it your attention
• Give it hope. “…For our sakes, no doubt, this is written: that he that ploweth should plow in hope…” (1 Corinthians 9:10)
• Remember hope is like love or faith, it needs an object. (Dallin Oaks) Same with singing, effective when singing to someone or something.
• What is the natural language of man?
• We know we can create things with feelings and emotions, so would singing help to create?
• “Then Israel sang this song, Spring up, O well; sing ye unto it.” (Numbers 21: 17)
• “And they did sing praises unto the Lord; yea, the brother of Jared did sing praises unto the Lord, and he did thank and praise the Lord all the day long; and when the night came, they did not cease to praise the Lord.” (see Ether 6:9)
• “And when they had sung an hymn, they went out into the mount of Olives.” (see Mark 14:26)
• “And when they had sung an hymn, they went out into the mount of Olives.” (see Matt 26:30)

### The Forbidden Experiment

An alleged experiment carried out by Holy Roman Emperor Frederick II in the 13th century saw young infants raised without human interaction in an attempt to determine if there was a natural language that they might demonstrate once their voices matured. It is claimed he was seeking to discover what language would have been imparted unto Adam and Eve by God.

The experiments were recorded by the monk Salimbene di Adam in his Chronicles, who wrote that Frederick encouraged "foster-mothers and nurses to suckle and bathe and wash the children, but in no ways to prattle or speak with them; for he would have learnt whether they would speak the Hebrew language (which he took to have been the first), or Greek, or Latin, or Arabic, or perchance the tongue of their parents of whom they had been born. But he laboured in vain, for the children could not live without clappings of the hands, and gestures, and gladness of countenance, and blandishments."

• “Everybody just sing, For the people who can't. It'll help them survive; It'll keep them alive.” Ben Lee Lyrics - Sing

## L19 The Infallible Rule - Cause and Effect

• Essential Question What is the real problem with you and me?
• I don't have money!
• No, the problem is either your not working, living on a budget, saving money, or exercising self-control and delayed gratification. This is the root or cause of your problem, remember money is just an effect. If you want the effect, focus on the cause!
• I don't have friends/relationships!
• I don't have happiness!
• I don't have blessings from God!
• Again no, blessings come from being obedient to God, remember blessings are an effect, focus on the cause which is obedience.
• Essential Question Do you treat people like things?
• Are your relationships based on what you can get instead of what you can give?
• Healthy and Long lasting relationships are created when you focus on making the other person happy. To often the focus is incorrectly on how they can make me happy.
• Do you focus on the effects/fruit instead of the causes/tree
Cause Effect
work, job money
budget, save, self-control money
goose golden egg
tree fruit
obedience necessities and luxuries
selfless service, help people friendship
serve/support/love someone affection and kisses
positive thoughts positive reality
negative thoughts negative reality
debt immediate gratification but robs your future
saving delay gratification but prospers your future
• “While gambling at checkers with some shipmates, he formulated an 'infallible rule,; which was that 'if two persons equal in judgement play for a considerable sum, he that loves money most shall lose; his anxiety for the success of the game confounds him.' The rule, he decided, applied to other battles; a person who is too fearful will end up performing defensively and thus fail to seize offensive advantages.” (Benjamin Franklin: An American Life by Walter Isaacson, p. 49-50)

### Goose and Golden Eggs

"One day a countryman going to the nest of his Goose found there an egg all yellow and glittering. When he took it up it was as heavy as lead and he was going to throw it away, because he thought a trick had been played upon him. But he took it home on second thoughts, and soon found to his delight that it was an egg of pure gold. Every morning the same thing occurred, and he soon became rich by selling his eggs. As he grew rich he grew greedy; and thinking to get at once all the gold the Goose could give, he killed it and opened it only to find nothing."

• Greed doth surely lead to need, or in other words if you focus on effects you lose
• “If we like luxuries or even necessities more than we like obedience, we will miss the blessings which HE would like to give us.” (Spencer W. Kimball in Teachings of Spencer W. Kimball, edited by Edward > Kimball (1982), p. 212)

## L20 What is Money

• Essential Question: What is Money?
• Awaken to the issues of the consumer, throw-away society we have become and transform into create/repair/do with out society
• Money follows work
• Goal to increase hourly wage while reducing indirect costs
• Example - Job 1 pays \$12/hr but has a 3 hour commute each day. Job 2 pays \$10/hr and has 30 minute commute.
• Which one is better? Job 2 earn \$75 a day whereas Job 1 earn \$60 a day
• How much are you worth? In short, the answer is whatever someone is willing to pay you? Often confuse worth and value.

Job 1: $8 hour*\frac{\$12}{hour}-3 hour*\frac{\$12}{hour}=\$96-\$36=\$60$(excludes other costs like transportation or child care) Job 2 =$8 hour*\frac{\$10}{hour}-0.5 hour*\frac{\$10}{hour}=\$80-\$5=\$75$

• Money Myths
• Money is success - if I have it, then I'm successful. So, would people be considered successful, if they win the lottery or inherits a million dollars? Or will they feel ashamed, like they didn't earn it or are deserving of it?
• Money is security - if you were a courier walking through downtown Chicago at night with a briefcase filled with money, would you feel secure? (Your Money or Your Life, p. 47)
• Money is power - what about Gandhi? He didn't have money but had more power than any man in India.
• Money is social acceptance - fact companionship, friendship and intimacy are all available free to those who sincerely extend their love to others (Your Money or Your Life, p. 48)
• Money is happiness - there are plenty of people who have money but are unhappy. Happiness doesn't come from externals (Your Money or Your Life, p. 120)
• Is this purchase really bringing me happiness, is it taking me to where I want to go/my dream?
• Is more always better? Clutter, more than enough, debt, when more isn't better
• Is every problem solved by a product?

### Power of Earned Money

• Essential Question Is there a difference between Earned Money and Begged/Borrowed/Stolen Money?
• Earned Money has dignity, accomplishment and self esteem attached to it
• Begged/Borrowed/Stolen Money has lowliness, weakness, and broken/busted man attached to it
• “He may borrow for a time, but not enough to carry on in his accustomed way, and he cannot continue to borrow very long. But borrowing in itself, when a man is borrowing merely to live, is a depressing experience, and the money lacks the power of earned money to revive his spirits.” (Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, p. 180)
• Honesty leads to respect and trust from yourself and others
• Selfless Service leads to Friendship
• Meaningful Work leads to Success/Money

#### Habit of Saving Money

• “Thomas A Edison is one of the best known and most respected inventors in the world, yet it is no misstatement of facts to say that he would have remained a practically unknown, obscure personage had he not followed the habit of conserving his resources and shown his ability to save money.” (The Law of Success by Napoleon Hill, p. 142-3)
• “Henry Ford never would have got to first base with his 'horseless carriage' had he not developed, quite early in life, the habit of saving.” (The Law of Success by Napoleon Hill, p. 143)
• “Reserve Funds are essential in the successful operation of business!” (The Law of Success by Napoleon Hill, p. 143)
• “The main prerequisite [of saving money] is a willingness to subordinate the present to the future, by eliminating unnecessary expenditures for luxuries.” (The Law of Success by Napoleon Hill, p. 143)

## L21 The Force - A Strengthen Beyond Your Own

• Essential Question: In relationships, how do you know if someone loves you or will harm you?
• What is intuition?
• What do you call that feeling or vibe you get when your in danger?
• Skywalker: But with the blast shield down, I can't even see! How am I supposed to fight?
• Kenobi: Your eyes can deceive you. Don't trust them. [remote shoots Luke] Stretch out with your feelings! [Watches Luke succeed in blocking the lasers] You see? You can do it.
• “As you gain experience and success in being guided by the Spirit, your confidence in the impressions you feel can become more certain than your dependence on what you see or hear.” A Child's Guiding Gift by Mary R. Durham and To Acquire Spiritual Guidance by Richard G. Scott
• “When we face seemingly insurmountable obstacles in the fulfillment of righteous responsibilities, we should remember that when we are involved in the work of the Lord, the obstacles before us are never as great as the power behind us. We should reach out and climb. Handholds will only be found by hands that are outstretched. Footholds are only for feet that are on the move… blessings that carry us over obstacles do not precede our efforts; they follow them…. What do we do when we face obstacles in the fulfillment of righteous responsibilities? We reach out and climb! The blessings that solve problems and carry us over obstacles come to persons who are on the move.” (Dallin H. Oaks, New Era Aug 1985, p. 4)
• What can you do to enhance your capacity to be led to correct decisions in your life?
• I believe that you can leave the most precious, personal direction of the Spirit unheard because you do not respond to, record, and apply the first promptings that come to you.
• What are the principles upon which spiritual communication depends?
• faith in the Savior
• sincerity
• purity of intent
• pure love of the Savior
• love of those he taught
• What are the potential barriers to such communication that you need to avoid?

### Don't Quit, Keep Playing

• [Q] What is the point in trying to be something I'm not, YET?
• [A] “The answer to those questions may best be given by relating the story of a young piano student. His mother, wishing to encourage him, 'bought tickets for a performance of the great Polish pianist, Paderewski. The night of the concert arrived and the mother and son found their seats near the front of the concert hall. While the mother visited with friends, the boy slipped quietly away. 'Suddenly, it was time for the performance to begin and a single spotlight cut through the darkness of the concert hall to illuminate the grand piano on stage. Only then did the audience notice the little boy on the bench, innocently picking out 'Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star.' 'His mother gasped, but before she could move, Paderewski appeared on stage and quickly moved to the keyboard. He whispered to the boy, 'Don't quit. Keep playing.' And then, leaning over, the master reached down with his left hand and began filling in the bass part. Soon his right arm reached around the other side, encircling the child, to add a running obbligato. Together, the old master and the young novice held the crowd mesmerized.” (What It Means to Be a Daughter of God by James E. Faust, Oct 1999 General Conference)

### Serving Others

• Quaker Proverb: “Thee lift me, I’ll lift thee, and we’ll ascend together eternally.” (Come, Follow Me by Elder Robert D. Hales)
• “When you are united, your power is limitless. You can accomplish anything you wish to accomplish.” (Your Greatest Challenge, Mother by Pres Gordon B. Hinckley, Ensign Nov 2000, p. 97)

#### Service Project

• Step 1 - As a group, think of someone who needs help
• Step 2 - Discuss the talents, contacts, and resources you have to offer
• Step 3 - Make a plan to serve that person. For example you could: perform a service project, family history, or help someone on path to self-reliance

### 5 Things Your Website Should Include

• 5 Things Your Website Should Include - to clarify your message
• 1. Your website should include an easy-to-understand tagline
• If you confuse, you lose - Donald Miller
• To create, achieve and have success! - jefferyjjensen.com
• 2. Your website should include an obvious call to action
• 3. Your website should visually display the success your client will experience if they use your product or service
• 4. Your website should break down your products and services into bite-sized categories
• 5. Your website should be a clear communication of your BrandScript

#### BrandScript

1. What does your customer want?
2. What's the external problem they are dealing with?
3. What's the internal problem? (How is the external problem making them feel?)
4. What empathetic statement can your brand make toward your customer's internal problem?
5. Why are you an authority to solve your customer's problem?